Couples share mixed reactions on whether they would agree to their partner’s wish to live with their MIL.

A recent question posted on social media sparked a heated debate about the complexities of living with a mother-in-law. A woman asked whether it would be a deal breaker if her partner insisted on having his mother move into their new flat, a condition he set before marriage. While some participants in the discussion expressed strong opposition, fearing that it might lead to the partner becoming overly dependent on his mother, others offered a more balanced view, citing positive experiences living with their MILs.

The concerns voiced by critics centered on the fear that the partner might turn into a “mummy’s boy,” avoiding taking responsibility around the house or standing up for his spouse during potential conflicts with the mother. One commenter noted the difficulty of asking an MIL to leave once she’s settled in, suggesting that it could lead to lasting emotional damage.

On the other hand, some commenters shared that their relationships with their mothers-in-law were positive, with MILs helping with childcare or housework. One person noted how her MIL’s cooking added value to her life, while another emphasized the importance of personal space and finding a balance between family closeness and individual relationships.