As relationship uncertainty grows, a woman seeks advice online about navigating boundaries and expectations in an unofficial relationship.

A woman recently took to social media to voice her frustration after six months of exclusive dating with a man who has yet to make their relationship official and continues to interact with other women. In a detailed post on Reddit’s “Ask Singapore” forum, she shared her confusion and hurt, particularly after a recent argument about his communication with a female friend during a trip to Taiwan.

Though they have been seeing each other exclusively and have even met each other’s families, the man has made it clear that he does not consider them officially committed. This ambiguity has left the woman feeling uncertain about her place in the relationship, especially after he mentioned that his past girlfriend had full access to his phone and accounts—something she doesn’t have, fueling her concerns about trust and transparency.

The turning point came when the man mentioned that they were “incompatible” and could only be friends, a statement that left her feeling dismissed. Despite this, she noticed no plans were made with the woman in question, raising further doubts. The woman has expressed that this is not the first time she has felt uneasy about his relationships with other women, but when she raised her concerns, he claimed she was overstepping, especially since they were not officially together.

In seeking advice, she asked the Reddit community whether it’s normal in pre-official dating stages to question a partner about their friendships with others, particularly when transparency and loyalty seem to be one-sided. The responses were mixed, with some users supporting her desire for clarity and transparency, while others agreed that, without an official commitment, the man didn’t owe her full loyalty. Many pointed out the importance of boundaries and mutual respect in any relationship, but also expressed concerns about the man’s dismissive attitude toward her concerns.